On Thursday 28th June, at 6.53pm, my wife Bec and I welcomed our little boy Luke Sebastian Fernando into the world.
Since returning home I’ve been thinking a lot about what it means to be a family, and specifically what it will mean to Luke to be part of our family.
Last week, in between changing nappies, I investigated the origin of our family name ‘Fernando’ and discovered that it has Spanish/Portuguese roots. I also learnt that the name is based on two spanish words ‘fard’ and ‘nand’ which mean ‘Journey’ and ‘Daring’. Perhaps that’s why I decided to name this newsletter ‘Dare To Dream’ :)
In researching our family coat of arms I discovered that it was common practice for families to add a motto to a traditional coat of arms to make it more personal. This got me to thinking – “What would we want our family motto to be?”
I discussed this with Bec and we decided to develop out own family motto. To do this we initially brainstormed a list of words that we each thought were important and then decided that we would narrow it down to the three specific words that would best encapsulate what was most important to us as a family.
After a wonderful discussion, the words we decided on were: LOVE, INTEGRITY, ADVENTURE.
I then combined our new family motto with a traditional coat of arms related to the Fernando family name to create the following:
While the coat of arms is really just a bit of fun as I can’t be 100% sure of its historical accuracy, what was really valuable was sitting down with Bec and talking about the values that would be important for our family.
So today, I’d like to encourage you to think about developing your own family motto. If you’re not married you can still do this exercise to create a personal motto that describes who you really want to be.
Here’s what to do:
1. Brainstorm a list of words that represent what’s important to you.
2. Go through your list and decide which three words best encapsulate what you feel is most important for you or your family.
3. For a bit of fun, jump on Google and see if you can find a traditional coat of arms related to your family name.
Remember the important part of this exercise is not actually the coat of arms, but rather, the discussion you have with your partner to decide what you want your central family values to be.
Until next time, from myself, Bec and Luke,
Dare To Dream!